It may have been months since your divorce ended, and you thought you were doing okay. You were picking yourself up financially, making your home your own, and trying some new activities and were feeling pretty good about yourself. But then it hits you and won’t leave. That anger--that pure rage once you look back and realize just how awful your ex treated you. The … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Divorce May Be Part Of Your Spiritual Journey
Religious beliefs are often a barrier to even considering divorce as an option when divorce may actually be part of your spiritual journey: The fact that I chose divorce doesn't mean I didn't pray about it. It doesn't mean I made the decisions without talking to God. The fact that it messes up the order in the church doesn't mean this isn't part of your spiritual journey. … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Does Life Get Easier When Your Ex Is Dating?
Learning that your ex is dating can bring a flood of emotions and for some, life gets easier: He actually started dating someone who was another parent at our school and our children are friends. A lot of people want that to be a big drama but I noticed a change in his behavior towards me instantly. I didn't want him back so all I could do was just say, "I'm really happy for … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Children Feel The Pre-Divorce Tension
Divorce doesn't come as relief only to adults. Children also feel the pre-divorce tension even in marriages where the conflict is not open. It was such a relief because there was so much tension and distance between them. I felt they never should have gotten married but if I had ever said that then the response was, "but then you wouldn't exist." It reminded me that there was … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Are You Coping With Your Marriage?
Being married is rarely described as being easy. We're told you have to work at the relationship. But when a marriage is predominantly difficult, "working at it" shifts to coping with your marriage: It was a very difficult marriage and I coped by being pretty closed off. Certainly emotionally closed off but sexually closed off as well. ~ Cathy Cathy was with her husband for … [Read more...]
