Religious beliefs are often a barrier to even considering divorce as an option when divorce may actually be part of your spiritual journey: The fact that I chose divorce doesn't mean I didn't pray about it. It doesn't mean I made the decisions without talking to God. The fact that it messes up the order in the church doesn't mean this isn't part of your spiritual journey. … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Does Life Get Easier When Your Ex Is Dating?
Learning that your ex is dating can bring a flood of emotions and for some, life gets easier: He actually started dating someone who was another parent at our school and our children are friends. A lot of people want that to be a big drama but I noticed a change in his behavior towards me instantly. I didn't want him back so all I could do was just say, "I'm really happy for … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Children Feel The Pre-Divorce Tension
Divorce doesn't come as relief only to adults. Children also feel the pre-divorce tension even in marriages where the conflict is not open. It was such a relief because there was so much tension and distance between them. I felt they never should have gotten married but if I had ever said that then the response was, "but then you wouldn't exist." It reminded me that there was … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Are You Coping With Your Marriage?
Being married is rarely described as being easy. We're told you have to work at the relationship. But when a marriage is predominantly difficult, "working at it" shifts to coping with your marriage: It was a very difficult marriage and I coped by being pretty closed off. Certainly emotionally closed off but sexually closed off as well. ~ Cathy Cathy was with her husband for … [Read more...]
Are You Jealous Of Your Ex Dating Someone Else?
After divorce, seeing your ex with a new partner or date is a pivotal moment. It can stir up lots of emotions and you may even be jealous of your ex dating someone else and be confused by that: He actually started dating someone who was another parent at our school and our children are friends. A lot of people want that to be a big drama but I noticed a change in his behavior … [Read more...]