A common reason for not wanting to end a marriage is not to break up the family but that's flawed logic. It's wrong to think you're not a family after divorce. Ask people who are post-divorce and they'll tell you that they are still a family, they're just a little different now. This tells us two things: being in a family is important to many people and the concept of … [Read more...]
Do You See Divorce As An Opportunity Or The End Of The World?
Do you see divorce as an opportunity or the end of the world? Divorce is always an opportunity but many people don't see it that way certainly when they first realize that it's likely and especially if they aren't the decision-maker. For the person who takes the lead on ending the marriage, they've concluded that life will be better outside the marriage. That doesn't mean … [Read more...]
Divorcing And Not Working? You Might Regret It
If you're divorcing and not working, you might regret it. Why? Standard advice used to be not to go back to work as it would likely impact the alimony you'd receive and not just the amount but also the duration. You'll rarely hear that advice these days. Gone are the days of lifetime maintenance, and if you're not working you're at risk of being treated as voluntarily … [Read more...]
Do You Know What It Takes To Leave An Abuser?
Leaving any marriage is hard. It's even harder when there's abuse. There are many day-to-day things we take for granted that survivors can't. It's easy not to understand what it takes to leave an abuser. For example, applying for your own credit card means mail to your home which might be intercepted by your abuser. Setting up a P.O. Box to avoid this still means mail to … [Read more...]
Is An Uncontested Divorce Possible For You?
The Basics of Uncontested Divorce An uncontested divorce is one where all of the issues are settled without litigation by attorneys. It requires a couple to agree on all the important points, such as alimony, child custody, and how to divide their property. This is typically the best-case scenario because the divorce will be over quicker, and legal fees will be lower with less … [Read more...]