There's almost always less money after divorce and that means adjusting your spending to your new budget: Adjusting to having less money was definitely a change. I wasn't used to it and not that I'm a big spender or that I'm really irresponsible with money, I never have been but my budget was just suddenly cut and I had to downsize everything. ~ Tara Tara and her husband were … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Does The Thought Of Living Alone Frighten You?
A universal truth about divorce is that there's almost always less after divorce and one way in which there's less is you no longer have a partner to share the load of daily living. The mere thought of that can be scary: Living alone was a trial by fire. Every time something happened, I was knocked back because I didn't know how to handle it. The most valuable lesson though is … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Nobody Else Can Do Your Divorce For You
One of the hard realizations of a troubled marriage is that no one else can make the decision to end your marriage. It's either you or your spouse: I was always kind of inactive in my life, kind of passive. I would sit around and complain that nothing good was happening to me and and I was just going to be miserable but getting off my butt and getting out of a bad situation, … [Read more...]
Are You Angry With Yourself?
Going through divorce, it's not uncommon to feel angry with your ex and it's easy to recognize that's what you're feeling. What's harder to recognize is being angry with yourself: I had twenty-five years to get over. It took me a while to, not really stop being angry at my ex for what he had done but rather to get over being angry at myself for having allowed it. ~ … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Dating Is Not A Priority
It may be hard to understand, may even seem strange but dating after divorce for some people is simply not a priority: I don't need to date because my whole life is about making my business work so my son and I can survive. Number one is my son and my work and after that it's taking care of my house and myself. After that it's my friends and somewhere down in there, there … [Read more...]