Sooner or later chances are that your ex will start dating and that will inevitably create some emotions for you. It's tempting to interpret their decision to date as a reflection on some aspect of your relationship. That's unproductive because at best you're just guessing and at worst you're agonizing over something that's out of your control. He started dating somebody … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Free From The Power Struggles
Disagreements between you and your spouse are inevitable. Whether it's about menu choices, social commitments, home decor or vacation spots, you will never agree on everything. Sometimes however those disagreements are less about the specific item and more about a power struggle between the two of you: When I was married, I didn't really feel like I could have space without … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: A Pilot Light Lover
One reason people stay in troubled relationships is idea that being with someone is better than being with no one. They fear being alone, they fear they won't meet someone else who wants to be with them. If you can overcome that fear, embrace that you are good enough and open yourself to opportunities, then anything becomes possible: When I met this man, I fell in love … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Not Afraid To Go Home
Home is supposed to be your haven, your sanctuary, the place you go to recharge, relax, and be yourself. But when your marriage is deeply troubled, home is often the complete opposite. When I lived with my husband, there was a certain point coming home, there was a certain block I would hit where my stomach would suddenly start to clench up. I don't have that … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Connected To Your Ex For Life
Divorce may mean the end of your marriage but it's not the end of your relationship with your spouse: Staying connected with your ex doesn't mean a cozy relationship and it doesn't mean a daily relationship. It just means a recognition that once you have kids together, however you look at it, you're connected for life through the children. Judy Osborne is an author, and … [Read more...]