Disagreements between you and your spouse are inevitable. Whether it’s about menu choices, social commitments, home decor or vacation spots, you will never agree on everything. Sometimes however those disagreements are less about the specific item and more about a power struggle between the two of you:
When I was married, I didn’t really feel like I could have space without coming up against static from my husband. He was very talkative, I need quiet and I think I craved that self-definition and ability to give myself what I needed without having to fight for it. When I moved into a rental I had that positive feeling of quiet time when I could and creating space around me to reflect how I felt inside, going to yard sales and picking up different funny things and knowing there wouldn’t be a conversation about whether he liked it, whether it fit, what it meant. It was just what it was.
Candace and her her husband were married for seven years. Although she subsequently came out, Candace says there were other more fundamental issues with the marriage. She certainly isn’t the only one of my guests to discover the joy of making simple purchases for the home after divorce without the nth degree from their spouse!