When April decided to leave her husband and his drug addiction, she moved across country to L.A. to have the support of her family starting a new life after divorce. She knew then she would be taking on the financial responsibility of raising her two girls and that she could expect little help from her ex. It's been seven years now and not only has her ex been of little help, … [Read more...]
Shielding Your Children After Divorce
Vivianne's son was just two-years old and her daughter was about eight, when they moved out of the family home away to New Jersey. Obviously, her son is too young to remember what was going on at home and why it was imperative to find safety. That's both good and bad; good because the fewer people exposed to such behavior the better, bad because it's hard for him to understand … [Read more...]
Your Neighbor, Your Ex
I believe that where your ex lives and where you live after divorce has a significant influence on how your children will adapt to your shared custody arrangement. Lauren of My Life Incomplete wrote in two homes about how the 50/50 physical custody arrangement means constant moving. C of Leap and the Net with Appear also wrote about how multiple demands (her ex, her boyfriend, … [Read more...]
Divorced parents should not brawl in public
In my last post, Kristi (@Divorcetohappy) talked about how your former spouse may be your ex but he's still dad to your children. It's important to respect that parent-child relationship and to avoid causing your children to feel awkward about their relationship with their other parent. Sometimes, that awkwardness could come from subtle nuances you don't give a second thought … [Read more...]
Your Ex But Still Their Dad After Divorce
Kristi truly believes that growing up is harder for children of divorce. She and I both agree that having two sets of rules , one set for your home and one set for your ex's home, is just one thing that makes their lives more challenging. I'm not sure there's anyway to avoid to this - my ex and I didn't see eye-to-eye on all the parenting rules when we were married! But there … [Read more...]