Through talking to so many women about divorce for my blog, I've come to understand that almost every aspect of divorce is highly individual. There are so many variations, no standard one way and that's a good thing. For me, once my husband had accepted that our marriage was over, I wanted to move ahead with the legal process, to resolve the loose ends. I felt that until that … [Read more...]
The Divorce Was Not About Me
When Judy talked about coming home to an empty house after twenty-eight years of marriage, she said she knew all along it wasn't about her. She always felt that her husband's decision to leave was related to his mental illness, issues that he needed to work on but chose not to. Here's Judy: My husband had gone through many stressful job situations, was diagnosed with lymphoma … [Read more...]
Coming Home To An Empty House
I'm starting a new series today featuring Judy, a remarkable lady who had no desire to end her twenty-eight year marriage but seven years ago her husband started to talk about wanting to move out, wanting a divorce, and one day Judy came home one day to an empty house. Here's Judy: He had been talking about looking for a job elsewhere for a while. He had come to hate our … [Read more...]
The Mistake Of Waiving Alimony
Julia has already shared what life with her husband was like - all the impossible little rules she tried so hard to meet but inevitably couldn't, the emotional control that made the idea of being a single parent more appealing than marriage. Having made the decision to end the marriage, Julia still had to go through the divorce process, a process that rarely seems easy and a … [Read more...]
Counseling Doesn’t Come With A Guarantee
Today, I'd like to introduce you to Julia, a lady whose story reminds me of the role played by Julia Roberts in the 1991 thriller, Sleeping With the Enemy. Her story starts out like a fairy-tale. Julia and her husband met when they were toddlers together in a summer daycare program. They went to the same high school but didn't start dating until she was a junior in college and … [Read more...]