Today, I'd like to introduce to Marjorie who just turned forty-two. Marjorie and her husband are still married although they've been separated since November 2010, so for about 14 months. Technically they've been married for about seven and half years and together they have a seven year old daughter. Marjorie has an older daughter from a previous relationship who is now in … [Read more...]
Divorce: A Rite of Passage
Divorce seems to be one of those topics about which everyone has an opinion: some of it may come from a religious belief, some of it may come from an ethical perspective, some of it may come from the media and entertainment and some of it may come from personal experience or an absence of such. Most likely it's a combination of all those sources. IronSpineSally was no stranger … [Read more...]
When It’s You Having The Affair
When IronSpineSally talked about leaving her marriage with a note, she never used the words "having an affair' but she did say she had met another man, who I'm going to call John, and they had become good friends. I asked her if she would have ended her marriage if she hadn't met this other person. This is what she said: I don’t know. I think I would have eventually because … [Read more...]
Leaving With A Note
When her husband was deployed with the Air Force, IronSpineSally was forced to take more responsibility for the household and in the process learned she was far more capable than she'd thought. Then came the falafel fire and the moment she knew she had to end her marriage. That can mean different things: for some it's the start of face-to-face discussions, for others it means … [Read more...]
It’s Over – The Moment Of Realization
Many women have shared how there was a single moment or incident when they knew their marriage was over, when they knew they had to leave. Here's IronSpineSally's moment: For me, it was a conversation that we had on the couch, where he told me he resented me for pretty much everything. I remember that things had been getting really volatile at home, and he just had a blow … [Read more...]