Divorce is a personal decision - no one other than you or your spouse can make that decision. Most of us want to look back on the decision to divorce and to feel with a high degree of certainty that we did what we could to make the marriage work and that divorce was the best decision we could make at the time. My current guest, Suzy, has been divorced now for about two years … [Read more...]
Going Public With Your Divorce
Getting divorce is a series of milestones ... making the decision ... telling your spouse ... telling the children ... going public your divorce ... moving out ... hiring an attorney ...Each milestone is its own challenge and often requires another shot of courage especially when it involves opening up to others and being honest about what's been going. My current guest, … [Read more...]
Learning To Trust Yourself
We grow up receiving messages about marriage and divorce, what they are, what they aren't, what's right, what's wrong. Those messages come from lots of sources: parents, religion, media, movies and personal experience. Often times we carry these messages subconsciously and when divorce goes against these messages, it can cause great turmoil and conflict. Ultimately though it's … [Read more...]
Breaking Up Takes Time
Once you've made up your mind to end your marriage, there can be a sense to urgency to move ahead with filing for divorce and physically separating especially. However, barring any pressing needs to protect yourself, the best action is to slow it down. Recognize that breaking up takes time and don't allow yourself to be pressured. That's exactly what my current guest, Suzy … [Read more...]
Figuring Out Who You Are
Getting divorced can mean a dramatic change in your lifestyle and if you're weighing up your marriage, that can make it a difficult decision. There are always trade-offs and it's a very personal decision that often starts with figuring out who you are. My current guest Suzy realized very early in her marriage that it was a union without physical or emotional intimacy. Her … [Read more...]