In Sex and the Seasoned Woman, many of the women Gail Sheehy interviewed said they were not looking to get married again. They were women in midlife who had 'rediscovered' themselves after divorce, were enjoying dating, some were in stable long-term relationship but many simply didn't have the desire to get remarried. When I talked to "Sue" recently, we talked about dating and … [Read more...]
The Pilot Light Lover
Gail Sheehy describes the 'Pilot Light Lover' as a transitional figure who reignites a midlife woman's capacity for love and sex.... "Falling into romantic love after 50 makes a single woman feel very vulnerable and for good reason. The Pilot Light Lover rarely lasts. He maybe a married man disguised as a single, or a great lover but unsuitable life partner - but so what? … [Read more...]
Life After Divorce: Are You Dating?
For the record, I am not dating but I often get asked if I am. Usually, I take it as a compliment - I interpret it to mean I'm someone who's fun to be with. Occasionally it can seem like an intrusion and when "yet" is appended, I take it as an insult, implying there must be something wrong with me. Thankfully, the days of rigid rules of etiquette are gone and what I've … [Read more...]