Gail Sheehy describes the ‘Pilot Light Lover’ as a transitional figure who reignites a midlife woman’s capacity for love and sex….
“Falling into romantic love after 50 makes a single woman feel very vulnerable and for good reason. The Pilot Light Lover rarely lasts. He maybe a married man disguised as a single, or a great lover but unsuitable life partner – but so what? After the heartache wears off, a woman who is on her way to becoming seasoned should be able to celebrate the Pilot Light Lover’s role in her journey.” (Sex and the Seasoned Woman by Gaily Sheehy)
Maybe you’ve experienced your Pilot Light Lover; maybe you’re reading this and thinking such love only happens in the movies. Cathy, who is now back in Australia after almost 30 years in the U.S, describes herself as the poster child for Sheehy’s book.
She was with her husband for 29 years and says it was a troubled marriage from the start. Now she’s well on her way to being a seasoned woman with a passion for life. Her Pilot Light Lover will always hold a special place in her heart. Listen to Cathy share her story ….[audio:http://sincemydivorce.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/cathy.mp3|titles=cathy]
After I heard Cathy’s story I had to get Sheehy’s book – I’m about half way through it and it’s definitely worth reading. It’s opening my mind to new possibilities … falling in love again would be quite an adventure!