You can learn about what makes for a successful marriage from divorce. I’ve learned that supporting your spouse through their career is just one of the ways that married couples change together and stay together:
He was threatened by my growth. He wasn’t a bad person, he just had a lot of fear and when other people are growing or are adventurous, it can threaten someone else’s security.
Holly’s decision to get married was prompted by an unplanned pregnancy. They’d dated for about a year and Holly says they didn’t know each other that well. The marriage lasted four years and during that time her husband had a profound impact on her life and it wasn’t good.
This is so right but hard for some people to see when they’re in a bad relationship. I’ve had so many people who say their spouse feels threatened by their success or even their friendships or family. Good marriages foster not hamper growth. Thanks for saying this.
This is one of the greatest lessons I learned from my divorce. Successful marriages allow individuality and support personal growth. I was married for 12 years and only recently realized that my ex had absolutely no idea who I am as a person. The marriage ended due to his infidelity, but I am thankful to finally be able to find acceptance and not be a martyr to a bad relationship.
Thank you Chrisdee for sharing this! I’m glad you’re in a place of acceptance and hopefully are now embracing all your gifts and talents.