Everyone needs support and encouragement to achieve their dreams: when you have someone else telling you you’re capable it builds your confidence, makes the work seem easier and helps you to keep pushing forward. Without the support, goals not impossible, they’re just that much harder. And then there’s negative support, the kind when someone tells you you’re wrong, you don’t have the capability, you’re a failure. That becomes a force working against you and that force is extremely powerful when it comes from someone you love:
He always told me for the longest time, because I was so young when I met him, that I’d be nothing without him.
Let’s be clear about this – if someone says this to you, it’s more about them and their issues than you. Don’t listen!
Jenni was just twenty when she had a whirlwind romance and moved to California with her soon-to-be-husband just four weeks after meeting him. She became a mom at twenty-three, was working, putting her husband through school and had a second child. After fifteen years of marriage she’d had enough and she spiraled into extra-marital affairs and drug abuse.