On-going conflict between former spouses can result in very challenging situations, some in which there are no good answers. Relief may come in accepting that whatever it is, it is temporary:
My ex used religion to alienate my children against me. Even though they don’t want to be with me, the relationship I have is only love because I have learned to accept and surrender to the present situation. It doesn’t mean I’m loving it but I accept it knowing that the only constant in life is change.
Esther Adler escaped an abusive father through marriage which also turned out to be abusive. The abuse continued after the divorce with her ex successfully alienating her children from her.
I’ve been divorced for over 10 years now, and my ex and I still don’t get along. If it wasn’t for sharing a daughter, I doubt that we would ever speak. Funny though, I was married once long before I met my ex, and got married for a second time. And my ex first wife and I still get along fine.
Kudos to you Steve for keeping the communication lines open with your ex for the benefit of your daughter.