There’s a difference between wanting to leave your marriage and being ready to leave. Sometimes that difference is about logistical preparations, other times it’s about emotional growth.
When my daughter was 18 months old I almost left him. I really wanted to and I was just too afraid. I think in his own way, he worked to isolate me from options. Just when I would think, “I can’t take this anymore,” we’d have a good day. I’d feel rewarded. That wasn’t every day, it wasn’t even every week but it was enough to keep me going. ~ Nancy B
Nancy B was married for twenty-one years. Although it was a long marriage, Nancy says it was always a difficult marriage and she knew from the beginning it probably wasn’t a good idea.
Moving from wanting to leave to preparing to leave requires a shift in your thinking. It means shifting from thinking about what you don’t like, to asking what it would take for you to leave and then figuring out how to make that happen.
What has helped to shift your thinking?