Every divorced family has a parenting schedule inked after hours of discussion and negotiation. The more detailed it is, the more helpful it is for avoiding conflict between parents but what happens when your child doesn’t want to be where the agreement says they should be?
I think my girls have fared better because my ex and I have been amicable and because he never took anything out through them. If my daughter when she was five didn’t want to spend the night with him, he didn’t take it personally. He said, “You need your mommy.” He was so understanding.
Lora and her husband were married for eighteen years. Their two daughters were aged five and nine at the time of their divorce. Lora firmly believes that her ex’s flexibility with the parenting schedule was critical in helping her children adapt to life after divorce.