Wishing your spouse would die is an undeniable sign that your marriage is in serious trouble and it’s time to face reality.
I kept thinking we were in our late twenties and there was no way I was going to be able to divorce this man. Maybe he’ll be killed in a car accident. I would fantasize about that but I would feel such awful guilt. ~ Pippi
Pippi knew her husband in high school but they didn’t date until later. They were married for eleven years but Pippi says it was always a struggle. Seeing herself divorced was just as much of a struggle so she created a fantasy world of what it would be like to be single again.
I’ve found that this is topic that isn’t openly discussed because it is dark and sinister and not something that most of us are proud to fess up to. Yet, it is very common. One thing is for sure … if you are fantasizing about your spouse coming to harm, then you need to be exploring divorce and seriously, a divorce coach will help you. If you’re already divorced and you’re still having these fantasies, you may find it helpful to get counseling around forgiveness.