Even though online dating is probably the most popular approach to meeting new people today, many people find it frustrating. This simple tip could help: I am a relationship person and being in a relationship is one of the most important things to me. So I decided I would devote half-an-hour a day to online dating. That was just a commitment I made. ~ Elizabeth Elizabeth was … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: The Danger In Wanting To Be Loved
Many people who experience divorce look back over their relationship and reflect that there were red flags, warning signs that it wouldn't end well. I was looking for love and chose to suppress those things that I saw thinking that maybe everything would work out and be OK. It was just wanting to be loved and to be in a marriage relationship again. I'm not an idiot but … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Find A Safe Place To Vent
It's really important to allow yourself to feel your emotions during divorce. If you try to ignore them or squelch them, they'll only come back later. The key however, is finding a safe way to express your emotions: People in divorce should not drive in rage. You need to pull over and scream about whatever is going wrong. You need not to drive while you're screaming. I was … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Telling Your Kids? Keep It Simple
Parents are always concerned about how divorce affects children. The answer to that is very much within your power and it starts from the moment you tell your child about your divorce: If you make a big deal about telling your children, it will stay with them forever. My parents didn't make a big deal about it. It was never like, "You and I are moving away and you're never … [Read more...]
Wanting To Leave Is Not Enough
There's a difference between wanting to leave your marriage and being ready to leave. Sometimes that difference is about logistical preparations, other times it's about emotional growth. When my daughter was 18 months old I almost left him. I really wanted to and I was just too afraid. I think in his own way, he worked to isolate me from options. Just when I would think, "I … [Read more...]