Getting divorced is often about accepting the reality of your marriage ... You can only work on a marriage so much if the other person doesn't want to work on it and isn't willing to do anything. ~ Sara Sara and her husband were married for ten years. She came home one afternoon and found her husband sleeping on the couch and together they agreed their marriage couldn't be … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Is Your Child Safe With Their Other Parent?
Shared parenting time or custody means saying goodbye to your child while they spend time with their other parent. While that may be difficult, and while parenting styles and rules may differ, for most of us our children will be safe. But what if that is not the case? I've represented myself in court, acted as my own attorney and I've done quite well in protecting my … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Start Your Parenting Plan With Your Child
The current trend in parenting time is moving heavily towards 50/50 shared parenting but does this really benefit the children? We actually did the decisions about our daughter's schedule and who should make decisions meeting with a psychologist. It didn't start out cooperative - we went in and he said, "I want 50/50." I didn't think that would work but instead of butting … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Marriage May Not Mean A Happy Home
In the turmoil of the end of your marriage, it's reassuring to know that children of divorce can have happy homes too. The biggest factor in my divorces was my children and how it was going to affect them. I wanted my children to see a happy home and it didn't necessarily involve a marriage. ~ Kim Between the ages of 22 and 38, Kim Katz was married and divorced twice. She … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: 50/50 Parenting Is Not For The Children
The trend today in parenting after divorce is equal time shared between both parents. Typically this is measured by the number of overnights the child has with each parent. While this may seem to fair to the parents, there's a growing movement that says it's not in the child's best interest. It's my belief, and I feel strongly about it , that going back and forth is not for … [Read more...]