Barbara's divorce journey started with a tragic love story. She thought the world of her husband but her love couldn't protect him from the bi-polar disease that lead him into drugs, attempted suicide and to leaving her and their children to become a dealer in Las Vegas. Ultimately, the only thing you can do is to move forward. It may be that you never totally understand the … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: The Value of Different Relationships
When Page Lambert ended her marriage it meant leaving the ranch in Wyoming where she had lived for twenty-five years. In the five years that followed she moved back to her childhood home in Colorado to take care of her failing mother and then to Sante Fe with her new partner. Along the way she developed a new perspective on relationships: I think it's so important that we … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: The Peace That Comes After Divorce
My current interviewee Debbie shared how she went against expert advice in ending her marriage at the same time as she was getting sober because the work of getting sober would be easier without the emotional stress of her troubled marriage. She was very aware of the negative energy from her marriage but that isn't always the case. Here's another of my interviewees, Molly: I … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: There Is No Prince Charming
Who's seen the Disney movie, Brave? It's one that I'm happy to recommend for a number of reasons not least of all because it breaks away from the typical "girl gets married to escape a difficult life" that characterizes so many Disney movies. The problem goes deeper than movies and fairy tales though ... it's a fundamental part of the societal "girl meets boy, girl falls in … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: The Divorce Roller Coaster
Sue was one of my early interviewees back in 2009. Even though she'd been divorced for fourteen years, she could still vividly remember the rush of emotions she experienced with the end of her marriage: For the last years of my marriage I'd felt dead. Then going through the divorce, I'd never felt so alive. I'd never had such feelings of euphoria and such depths of pain and … [Read more...]