I often liken people's stories of the legal divorce process to childbirth stories. There are always twists and turns and surprises. Unlike childbirth however, there's no pain-free way to experience divorce: The things I had to endure from my ex were so unbearable, thinking I was going to end up in a shelter. Missing my child was so unbearable. I just felt like I was losing it. … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Discovering Your Spouse’s Affair
Is there ever a good time to find out your spouse is having an affair? I was away at a conference. He told me he was having an affair, over the phone, while I was at this dinner party. I could have killed him. That was where the rug was pulled out because I couldn't believe he would do that but at least he'd got to the point that he needed to start telling the truth. Martha … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: The Impact of Marriage On Kids
Everybody wonders about the impact getting divorced will have on their kids but have you thought about the impact your marriage is having? Me and my ex would fight a lot and I just thought I don't want my kids to grow up and think 'my parents were married for some ungodly reason. They didn't get along, they weren't happy and then in turn we weren't happy.' Sara was married at … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Having Cosmetic Surgery
Feeling good about yourself is an important part of divorce recovery. A good portion of that comes from accepting and liking who you are both emotionally and physically. Physically it might mean losing weight, getting a new hair cut or even having cosmetic surgery: When I was in high school, I broke my nose and I've always wanted to get it fixed. But husband wouldn't "allow … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Changing Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Make Divorce Easy
When divorce involves one spouse coming out as gay, the sexual orientation is often cited as the reason for the divorce. People nod with understanding or gasp with shock or surprise. In reality, it may not be that simple and the sexual orientation is a cloak. I know our marriage was compromised way before my sexual orientation came up for me, it was just a catalyst for me to … [Read more...]