Everyone needs support and encouragement to achieve their dreams: when you have someone else telling you you're capable it builds your confidence, makes the work seem easier and helps you to keep pushing forward. Without the support, goals not impossible, they're just that much harder. And then there's negative support, the kind when someone tells you you're wrong, you don't … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Becoming Your Younger Self After Divorce
A common feeling from women going through divorce is feeling lost, feeling that they don't know themselves, not knowing what makes them happy and that ties into low self-esteem: My self-esteem began to plummet around the time I got married. Now I'm divorced I feel I've been taken back in time to when I was twenty-five and younger. Then I had a very strong sense of who I was … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: The Happy Marriage Facade
When you're struggling with your own marriage it's very tempting to look at other couples and think they have it all figured out and even to wish your own marriage was more like theirs. The problem with that however is you have no idea what the marriage is really like. What's visible on the outside is often very different from the what's going on inside: Sex started changing, … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: We All Need Support
Divorce is a very isolating time. Friends may become distant and you become guarded in what you want to share. Yet this is a time when you need support more than ever. I recommend to clients that they set up a Personal Support System: chose your three or four closest friends and confide in them. Choose wisely: I had a lot of really great friends but the people who I count as … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Family Game Night Is Date Night
Introducing your new partner to your children is a big occasion giving you another opportunity to assess how well your partner's values match yours and the type of relationship that might develop between them and your kids. Choosing an activity may make it easier than just having dinner because the activity itself can generate conversation. But what activity? We all sat around … [Read more...]