Even before the divorce is final many people already have an opinion about getting married again ... If I could do it, I would just like to be a strong, single woman for the rest of my life. I would just like to have a few intimate male friends that I see every now and then. I'd like to feel that I don't have to settle down with one man. Cathy was with her husband for … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: The Pain Of Never Having Children
Deciding to end a troubled marriage is agonizing and it can be even harder when it likely means you'll never the children you always wanted. I just didn't feel this was a marriage I wanted to bring kids into although I wanted kids. I haven't had kids and I'm not going to have to kids because I'm fifty now. There'll probably be forever some wounds around not having kids. Sally … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Your Children Will Understand Eventually
When you're weighing up what to tell your children about your divorce, experts agree: keep it simple, keep it age-appropriate, they don't need to know the details. That's hard to do sometimes especially when you see their hurt but stick with it because frequently they will see for themselves. When my daughter complains about my ex, I have to chuckle to myself because I know … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Parenting Is More Than Custody
Parents are often concerned that divorce will mean not spending as much time with their children and not seeing them as frequently. While parenting time is governed by your legal agreement there are often many other opportunities for you to stay involved with your child. My STBX was given temporary custody of our daughter but as her mother I still have rights. I now go to … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Are You Holding Any Grudges?
Are you holding a grudge against your ex? Are you still mad at yourself for something you did during your marriage? How would it feel to be free from those emotions? I had to get to a place of completely letting go, completely forgiving her, completely forgiving myself and moving on. There's no need to hold any grudges. Carlos Phillips had been married for seven years when … [Read more...]