Even though you may know your marriage is deeply troubled, the idea of divorce may be horrifying particularly if it's your spouse who raises it. Given time and hard work however, your view of divorce may change: It wasn't my decision to get divorced although I might have come to the same decision because I knew things were pretty bad. When he first said he wanted to get … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Understanding Is Key To Parenting After Divorce
Every divorced family has a parenting schedule inked after hours of discussion and negotiation. The more detailed it is, the more helpful it is for avoiding conflict between parents but what happens when your child doesn't want to be where the agreement says they should be? I think my girls have fared better because my ex and I have been amicable and because he never took … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: A Better Person After Divorce
There's always self-learning that comes from divorce. Always. And the payback from that often painful, awkward self-examination is growth and getting closer to living your full potential: I'm a better person now, I'm a better role model especially for my daughter. Hopefully, if something isn't working out the way she wants, she'll be able to express what she needs instead of … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Are You An Enabler?
Couples support each other in lots of different ways. True support is wonderful to see. For me, it's part of the magic of a deeply committed, loving relationship. Sometimes however that support crosses the line and it may not be obvious at the time: I was also his enabler. I realize this now. If he wanted something, I would make it happen and I would make my things happen … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Discovering Your Spouse is Gay
Sometimes marriages unravel slowly in a series of separations that can span years. Other times they can unravel suddenly taking one spouse by surprise, leaving them wondering why they hadn't seen it coming: My husband came out to me after twenty-five years of marriage and I really felt stupid because other people said they saw it but I didn't. I saw him as my husband and a … [Read more...]