When weighing up ending the marriage, couples often consider staying together for the sake of the children. Make no mistake though, this is not an easy solution: Whether or not the marriage gets solidified in the time you stay together for the children, you still have to deal with each other and with the children. There's still a need to work on some issues. Kimberly and her … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: Nobody Wants To Go Through Divorce
For many people, divorce isn't a quick or easy decision even when they know the marriage isn't working: Even though I wanted the marriage to end, I was not prepared for what I was about to experience going through divorce. Wanting your marriage to end and wanting to go through a divorce are two incredibly different things. You might want your marriage to be over but nobody … [Read more...]
Knowing You Have To Get Out
When people ask why your marriage ended, you suspect that they're waiting to hear about some dire, bad event and while those certainly do happen, not all marriages end that way. I didn't have a dark marriage. People have abuse and alcoholism and I didn't have that. But I just knew I had to get out, I knew I was going to die within the marriage. ~ Lora Lora and her husband … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: The Relationship Is More Important Than Marriage
The marriage rate in the U.S. is at its lowest point in more than a century. One reason could quite possibly be the impact of parents' marriages and divorces. I really never cared whether I got married or not. To me it was more important to find somebody who really got me and wanted me to be in their life than to have a wedding and a legal acknowledgment of our relationship. ~ … [Read more...]
Wisdom From Divorce: It’s OK To Be Angry
A lack of self-confidence makes it challenging to express or even have opinions of your own. Getting divorced can mean overcoming those inhibitions and learning that your opinions are an important part of who you are. It's OK to be angry. What's not OK is to not say something about it. ~ Carolyn Carolyn and her husband were together for five years, married for three. For the … [Read more...]