In her first guest post, Judy Osborne, author of Wisdom for Separated Parents:Rearranging Around the Children to Keep Kinship Strong, talked about how the arrival of children into a marriage, throws the spotlight on your own family background creating the opportunity to decide what you want to keep and what you want to do differently. It's almost inevitable that your family … [Read more...]
Parenting: Normal Differences and Formal Separations
I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Judy Osborne, author of Wisdom for Separated Parents:Rearranging Around the Children to Keep Kinship Strong. Through interviews separated parents, Judy uncovers another trait of Baby Boomers: the concept of separated family members as "kin," forever linked by love for, and responsibility to, their children. When Judy and I talked, … [Read more...]
Your Ex: A Friend In Your Heart
People tend to think that divorce means ending your relationship with your spouse. To some extent that's true but if you have children together and certainly in long term marriages, that "ending" is more like "changing." Your relationship shifts. My interviewee Judy has done a lot in the seven years since her husband left: she got her teaching certificate, traveled to Alaska … [Read more...]
Sharing Special Occasions With Your Ex
Ever wonder how you and your ex will be in twenty years time? Do wonder if he'll still be able to push the same buttons and get you upset? Do you ever wonder if you'll enjoy a glass of wine together? Buck$ome Boomer (who with hindsight says her husband did them both a favor by asking for a divorce) has been divorced for eighteen years now. She didn't share a meal with ex until … [Read more...]
How much to tell the children?
In this current series, April (@Aprilabtbalance) is sharing her story of how her husband's struggle with drugs made her end her marriage. Her marriage lasted about three years and together they had two children who were almost three and six when April and her husband divorced. That was seven years ago. April's ex continues to struggle with drugs and has been been in jail for … [Read more...]