When you get divorced and you have children together with your STBX, chances are you'll stay in touch. You could even still be connected with your ex after thirty-six years of living apart. Continuing with this series about my interview with author and marriage and family therapist, Judy Osborne, Judy talks about her own separation and some of the transitions in her … [Read more...]
Separations shape your relationship with your ex
When author and marriage and family therapist, Judy Osborne and I talked, she introduced me to the idea that there can be many separations in a marriage. In her guest post about separations she talked mainly about those that happen during parenting. Those aren't the only ones. A job promotion or a new job that requires more hours away from home, a new pastime such as bicycling … [Read more...]
Wisdom for Separated Parents
Today begins a new series with author Judy Osborne. As a marriage and family therapist, Judy has seen many former partners effectively reinvent themselves, expanding and reclaiming the family circle as kin. She's seen them successfully navigate family life post-divorce, breaking societal norms of how divorced partners are supposed to behave. Her book, Wisdom for Separated … [Read more...]
Transforming Your Relationship With Your Ex
It’s been over four years since Kathleen Christensen and her ex separated. Their divorce was challenging, fraught and exhausting. Using the collaborative divorce process, however, they were able to build a foundation for their new relationship as co-parents. Now, unlike with many traditional divorces, Kathleen is able to see the positives in her ex. In the final segment of … [Read more...]
Building For The Future With A Collaborative Divorce
Continuing in this series with Kathleen Christensen, she talked previously about the collaborative divorce she and her ex negotiated. Looking back, she says that process had a benefit that she didn't recognize at the time. Here's what she told me. We were really building the relationship for the future. We were building a healthy relationship and a foundation. I think a lot … [Read more...]