My current guest, Molly works hard at seeing the good in her ex even when her first reaction is to be mad with him. That helps her keep and further develop their peaceful co-parenting relationship. Another way she practices this, is to look at her ex through the eyes of her kids, seeing him the way they see him. Here's Molly: I think there’s nothing worse than when you … [Read more...]
Seeing Your Ex As A Good Guy
One of the realizations many people come to soon after divorce, is that if you couldn't control your ex when you were living with him, then you certainly can't control him now and you have to be more trustful about his parenting decisions. For my current guest, Molly, that means being more prepared to "let things go" when they're not important enough to argue about. It also … [Read more...]
Dealing With Post-Divorce Disagreements
When Molly talked about a peaceful divorce, her words kept echoing in my head. "Peaceful is not a place that you arrive to and never change after that. It's continually a process." That means co-parenting with your ex is going to be an evolving and changing process that will inevitably mean disagreements. In the early days following separation, those disagreements can be … [Read more...]
Adding New Partners To The Coparenting Mix
This is the last post in this series with author and marriage and family therapist, Judy Osborne about her book, Wisdom for Separated Parents. The interviewees in the book have all been through divorce but unlike most of my guests, there's been a significant passage of time since the end of their marriages. For some, it's ten years while others it's over thirty years. … [Read more...]
Bound To Your Ex Through Commitment And Events
For my current series, I talked to author and marriage and family therapist, Judy Osborne about her book, Wisdom for Separated Parents. The book is a collection of stories from divorced parents, about how they've stayed connected over the years and seeks to create a new model for families after divorce, a model on continuing kinship. In my interview with Judy, I asked her what … [Read more...]