Michelle and her husband separated in August 2010. Today, just eighteen months later Michelle is happy for her ex which is quite remarkable considering that by the time she'd gotten to be serious about divorce, communication between her and her husband had reached the point where she truly felt that couples therapy was not option. She didn't trust that he would hear anything … [Read more...]
One Way To Escape A Vindictive Ex
A common mistake by many people in the early stages of divorce, is thinking they won't have to deal with their STBX once the legal process is done. That may be true if you're childless but if you have children together, there will likely always be some connection.That's not the only situation. Another possibility is when your ex turns out to be mean and vindictive, like Lisa … [Read more...]
Dealing With A Mean, Vindictive Ex
After their confrontation in the therapist's office where Lisa's husband finally confessed to a prior long term relationship with a man, he moved out. Lisa had already filed for divorce and she'd pleaded with him not to make it difficult. However, she had no idea just what a mean and vindictive ex he would be. Here's Lisa: When we were married, he was Mr. born-again Christian, … [Read more...]
Lucky To Pick A Good Ex
The end of Carolyn's marriage involved infidelity, her husband's infidelity with her friend, the friend who'd held her hand during the birth of her daughter. Her friend and her ex were married two months after the divorce so today while the friend is no longer a friend, she is stepmom to Carolyn's children. Infidelity hurts and compounds the pain of divorce making it even … [Read more...]
Why Stay Friends With Your Ex?
Like so much else to do with post-divorce life, staying friends with your ex isn't a black and white issue and nor is it static. I've interviewed women who never speak to their ex either because the divorce was so acrimonious or because without children, they have no reason to talk. At the other end of the spectrum are ladies like Molly, who still count their ex as a friend. I … [Read more...]