As you contemplate divorce or as your spouse tells you your marriage is over, you find yourself wondering who is this person you married. Who is this person you thought you knew? Divorce coach, Lee Brochstein it's a feeling that could stay with you for years to come. Here's Lee: The first time your children are gone for a weekend, it is awful. You wait and pace for the … [Read more...]
Watching Your Ex Change
One of the challenges of life after divorce is watching your ex change, change in ways you've wanted, change for the better. Nancy B had pleaded with her husband for years to get better help for his fears and anxiety and once she'd moved out, he did. Here's Nancy B: Once I moved out, within a week he had a new therapist who changed his medication, got him on a step-by-step … [Read more...]
Starting Over With Your Ex After Divorce Court
Child custody battles are about winners and losers. Marjorie's joy at gaining shared custody of her daughter in addition to a financial settlement that included spousal support, a share of her husband's retirement assets and no liability for the marital debts has a flip side: her ex's loss. Clearly the settlement is not what he wanted. That is the risk of going to trial. … [Read more...]
Dating The Parent Of Your Child’s Friend Is Weird
When your ex starts dating can often bring a flood of emotions especially if his new partner is a friend or former friend of yours and even worse if they were dating before you broke up. What can also be a strange situation is when your ex starts dating the mother of one your child's friends. That's what happened to Michelle and I asked her to talk about how that made her feel … [Read more...]
With Hindsight Your Ex Agrees Divorce Was Best Decision
When Michelle talked about making a conscious decision to be happy and not to play into the drama of her ex dating the mother of her daughter's friend, I wanted to know more about how she was able to do that without ignoring her feelings. Was it just a process of rationalizing the decisions she'd made? Was she intentionally stifling her feelings and could they rear up in the … [Read more...]