As you navigate your divorce, a pervasive struggle is learning to get your ex out of your mind. Whether it is because of anger, heartache, jealously, or sadness, the emotions surrounding the person we were married to have a way of making it hard to move forward. Those emotions can creep up on you when you least expect it, especially when the split wasn’t exactly … [Read more...]
Your Ex Can Still Be Part Of Your Family
People are often surprised when divorced couples stay connected and stay friends but if it's something you both want, your ex can still be part of your family post-divorce. Antonio Borello and his wife were married for about ten years and together for three years before they got married. They were friends and partners for a long time. While the level of conflict in their … [Read more...]
How Do You Make Parenting Decisions With Your Ex After Divorce
Making parenting decisions when you're married seems more organic, more transparent, there's more give and take, more compromise because you're functioning within the container of your marriage and you want that to work. The end of your marriage, means the end to that framework and you have to figure out how to make parenting decisions with your ex. … [Read more...]
Accepting An Absent Dad
When one parent is essentially absent after divorce, there are pluses and minuses. There may be fewer conflicts but there's less support for when times are tough, the lack of a role model/parent figure and less financial resources. But perhaps the most difficult challenge is accepting that your ex just won't/can't parent in the way you'd like and then getting your children to … [Read more...]
A Mentally Unstable Ex
If you're unlucky enough to have a difficult ex after divorce then one of the most perplexing, time-consuming puzzles may be trying to understand or rationalize their behavior. There's the argument that you shouldn't try. Just accept it for what it is because the only thing you can control is your own behavior and reactions. Conversely, understanding that there is a reason … [Read more...]