This post begins a series about Kathleen Christensen and the amazing relationship she and her ex have post-divorce. They were married for about nine years and have now been apart for about three years. They have a daughter who was seven when they separated. Kathleen and her ex have come a long way and it's been a hard, difficult struggle. When I interviewed Kathleen, she … [Read more...]
It’s wrong to stay married for the sake of the children
Kristen's message for today's post I think is the ultimate lesson from her uncle's mantra for living: *** I guess I would say to people who are thinking about staying in a marriage because you have children, it's the wrong thing to do. Ultimately you'll look back on your life when your kids are grown up and you'll say 'why didn't I put myself first, too?' Kids don't want … [Read more...]
A New Home For A Fresh Start After Divorce
I think it's often assumed that it is the woman who will stay in the marital home after divorce, especially if there are children involved. However, it was Kristen, whose story we've been following, who moved out from their home. I asked how that felt. *** It was bittersweet but I knew that for me to really get a fresh start and move on with my life in the direction I wanted, … [Read more...]
Out of your comfort zone and into divorce
Yesterday, I introduced you to Kristen who shared that her first visit to see a divorce attorney was with her six-week old daughter in her arms. Today, she shares her decision to leave her marriage. *** I had extremely bad postpartum depression with my second daughter and it provided a bit of clarity for me with what made me happy and what didn't. That was in 2007 and that … [Read more...]
Is Marriage Supposed To Feel Like This?
Today starts a series of posts about Kristen who I met through another interviewee. When I asked Kristen what she felt was her most significant accomplishment since getting divorce, she said, "finding extreme happiness." Isn't that great! Before I spill the beans on her "extreme happiness" however, I'll let Kristen tell you about her marriage. *** I met my husband just one … [Read more...]