Today, I'm starting a new series and would like to introduce you to Heather-Marie. By way of background, Heather-Marie got married right after she turned 18 and was married for seven years. Sometimes she jokes that it was really only three and a half years because her husband was in the military and was gone for about half the time. It's now been 11 years since her divorce and … [Read more...]
One Decision Away From Settlement In Divorce
When I was getting divorced, I remember being very close to having a final financial agreement but my ex was balking on a final point. At the same time, my attorney was telling me she would have to start preparing to go to court if he didn’t sign soon. I really hoped to avoid the expense associated with a court hearing. So when Kathleen Christensen, who was using a … [Read more...]
Building a parenting plan around your child
I think by now you have an idea of how challenging Kathleen Christensen's divorce was. Just to refresh your memories, Kathleen was married for about nine years and their daughter was seven when they separated. Kathleen has described the co-parenting relationship she has now as a miracle. She credits not only the collaborative divorce process for this but also the decision to … [Read more...]
The hidden benefit of a collaborative divorce
Continuing in this series about Kathleen Christensen's divorce, she talked previously about the collaborative divorce she and her ex negotiated. Looking back she says that process had a benefit that she didn't recognize at the time. Here's what she told me. *** We were really building the relationship for the future. We were building a healthy relationship and a foundation. … [Read more...]
A collaborative divorce
In my last post I introduced Kathleen Christensen who described the relationship she now has with her ex as a miracle. She says that's due in large part to the "collaborative divorce" which doesn't refer to the way she and her ex worked together but rather a very specific divorce process. Here's how she described it to me. *** You each have your own lawyer and we would meet … [Read more...]