Jenni and her husband were married for almost 15 years and had two children who were aged twelve and seven, when Jenni decided to end the marriage. Moving out was a courageous move - after a series of extramarital affairs, a sexual assault and some time in rehab, Jenni had decided to go to college full-time, despite being made to feel stupid. With her background, and a limited … [Read more...]
Leap And The Net Will Appear
Jenni came out of rehab in late 2007. It was almost another year before she found the courage to leave her marriage. There were two incidents that told Jenni enough was enough. Here’s Jenni: There were many fights but I remember one big one when he woke me up at 5:30 in the morning. We were still sleeping in the same bed at the time and I woke up to him calling me a whore, a … [Read more...]
Rehab Isn’t Marriage Counseling
Jenni was with her husband for about fifteen years and was thirty-six when she decided to leave the marriage just over a year ago. Her marriage had been in trouble for a long time and had spiraled downhill five years ago with her infidelity and drug problems. In a failed attempt to hide a sexual assault from her husband, she convinced him to move to Colorado. Here's … [Read more...]
Should You And Your Child Have The Same Last Name?
Changing your name at the time of your divorce is an easy legal process but a very personal decision. For me, going back to my maiden name was a no-brainer. Changing your child's name isn't so straight-forward. That's not part of the divorce process and is a completely separate legal transaction. I'm told generally judges will only agree to the dropping of a father's last name … [Read more...]
Taking The High Road In Divorce
Some marriages end because partners change and drift apart and even though one partner may initiate a divorce, there's no clear 'victim.' Other marriages unravel dramatically, like coming home to an empty house and an eight-word-note or with the discovery of infidelity, addictions or other dishonesty. When one partner is the primary cause, the other partner may see themselves … [Read more...]