Today, I'd like to introduce you to my next guest, Nancy B. Nancy B was married for twenty-one years and has been divorced now for about eighteen months. She's fifty-six now; her husband was ten years her senior and had been married twice before. Together they have a daughter who is now eighteen and a freshman in college. Although it was a long marriage, Nancy B says it was … [Read more...]
Preparing for Divorce Court
Today I'm starting a new series which is an update for one of my recent guests, an exciting update. When I posted Marjorie's story in late January/early February, you may recall that she had been separated from her husband for some fifteen months then, he'd had her arrested for domestic violence, got a restraining order against her barring her access to their home and he'd been … [Read more...]
Facing Your Fears About Divorce
A few weeks ago I shared a guest post from divorce coach Karen McMahon about Envisioning and Creating Your Future. At the time I was grappling with the decision to end my marriage, I didn't have the formal word for it, but visioning helped me see that divorce was indeed an option and it was visioning that helped guide me through my fears about divorce. Here's how: I Just Want … [Read more...]
The Guilt Of Deciding To Divorce
I don't believe the decision to divorce comes easily to most people and often, if you're the person who initiated the divorce, there's guilt. Those feelings of guilt and the second-guessing about if your marriage could have been saved can linger. For Michelle, seeing her ex in another relationship so quickly made those feelings worse, even though it was her who initiated the … [Read more...]
Could This Marriage Have Been Saved?
Michelle has managed to build a collaborative parenting relationship with her ex with a combination of him becoming a better parent and her consciously choosing how to treat her ex. She says their relationship and certainly their communication is better now than it was by the end of their marriage. That inevitably leads Michelle to wonder if she could have saved her marriage. … [Read more...]