I haven't interviewed a person yet who wasn't concerned in some way about the effects of divorce on children and so I thought it would be interesting to interview some people who experienced their parents' divorce as a child. Today, I'd like to introduce you to Sarah who was about 12 when her parents divorced. That was 25 years ago. Our conversation began with Sarah recalling … [Read more...]
Delaying Divorce. Do Children Benefit?
The authors of the Longevity Study believe that while divorce doesn’t hold the same stigma today as it did during the childhood of the study participants, it does still present a threat to the well-being and economic-being of children and teenagers and these threats may impact long-term health and well-being. The effects of parental divorce however can be mitigated if children … [Read more...]
When Is The Best Time For Divorce?
Even when I was a teenager, I felt that couples should not stay married for the sake of their children. I don't really know what formed that opinion - my parents' marriage had its ups and downs but nothing dramatic. I do remember a school friend whose parents got divorced - I was never privy to any of the details. My parents discussed it in hushed whispers. My gut just told me … [Read more...]
Divorce Advice From a Support Group
For most people, ending their marriage is hard. Traumatic. For the person who initiates it, deciding to divorce can be a lengthy process. While Nancy B seized the opportunity of her daughter being away to tell her husband their marriage was over, it wasn't a hasty decision. Nancy B had been going to a divorce support group for months. Here's Nancy B: I joined a divorce … [Read more...]
Making Excuses For Your Spouse
Nancy B's whirlwind romance - just ten months from first date to marriage - didn't give her enough time to really get to know to her husband. Had she waited a little while longer she might have seen his fears and panic attacks which really came to define how they lived their life. Here's Nancy B: He was a very, very fearful person. When I was forty years old, he’d had a form … [Read more...]