Developing a vision for your life after divorce, I believe, is a critical factor in how well you adjust to the end of your marriage. It makes a difference because most of us don't have divorce figured into our life plan and it's a big unknown. We don't know what to expect when divorcing. Elinor Robin, an experienced mediator and mediator trainer, says that's precisely why … [Read more...]
Why You Need a Real Estate Divorce Specialist
For many couples, their home is their single most valuable asset. How you and your STBX decide to handle the division of this asset will have a profound impact on the rest of your life. That's why Real Estate Divorce Specialist, Joan Rogliano says a competent Realtor is a critical member of your Professional Support Team. I absolutely endorse Joan's team approach. Before … [Read more...]
Life Lessons From Your Parents
No matter what, we all take lessons from our parents-things they did well, things they didn't handle well and of course, things we vow we'll never do. Those lessons guide how we live our lives and I think it is helpful to know that these lessons helped form our beliefs. Ashley's lessons, not surprisingly were about marriage and children. Here's Ashley: When I was in high … [Read more...]
Children May See Divorce As a Relief
One of the findings of the Longevity Project was that the children in the study group who were in high-conflict marriages found their parents' divorce a relief. Their adjustment to life after divorce was easier than those children who thought they were a happy family. My current guest, Ashley experienced her parents' divorce when she was fourteen and her experience supports the … [Read more...]
Remembering The Divorce Conversation
I don't remember the date but I do remember that it was a Saturday afternoon in November when my husband and I sat down in our kitchen and told our children we had decided to end our marriage. I can't recall the specifics of the conversation but I can easily bring to mind an image of us all sitting there and how my son and daughter reacted. I imagine that it is a day and a … [Read more...]