Mention increased child custody to your attorney and he/she may quickly launch into a lengthy, gloomy, discouraging speech and rightly so. Custody battles are ugly. Chances are that your STBX won't give up custody easily and courts are very reluctant to give increased custody unless there is overwhelming evidence that a child is in danger. With lots of evidence of domestic … [Read more...]
Moving Out
Once you know your marriage is over one of the next milestones is separating: either you or your STBX needs to move out. Two Kids and a Fish was certain they were going to lose their home and given her abusive relationship with her STBX it made sense for her to be the one to leave. Here's how it went down: I told him two weeks before that I was leaving on this date and I got … [Read more...]
Knowing It’s Time to Leave Your Marriage
Today I'd like to introduce you to another brave and courageous lady who goes by the name Two Kids and A Fish. Her story is one of escaping domestic violence and doing her best to break the cycle of violence so her daughters don't suffer the same fate. Two Kids and a Fish met her sweetheart in high school and they had their first daughter when they were nineteen. They got … [Read more...]
Knowing It’s Time to End Your Marriage
Esther Adler didn't leave her abusive marriage earlier in part because she didn't realize she had options, she didn't see or wasn't ready to accept that she was being emotionally abused. I asked her what happened to change that, how did she know it was time to end her marriage? Here's Esther: I bartered with a college girl. She used to clean my home once a week and in … [Read more...]
From an Abusive Father to an Abusive Husband
Today I'd like to introduce you to Esther Adler. Esther is a dancer, author and inspirational speaker. She was married at eighteen and was married for fourteen years. She’s been divorced for about five years now and has written a book—Breaking The Chains to Freedom—about her experience growing up with an abusive father, escaping to an abusive marriage, losing her children and … [Read more...]