Thinking that divorce will put an end to the marital difficulties between you and your spouse is common but often times I'm sorry to say, it's just wishful thinking. That's especially true if you have children because like it or not you will have to figure out a way you and your STBX can parent together. The past is not a predictor of the future and I have heard many stories … [Read more...]
A Warning Sign: Emotionally Unavailable
Marriages don't suddenly stop working, they untangle slowly. As author Judy Osborne says, divorce is a series of separations some of which are so subtle we don't even notice when they happen. My current guest, Elizabeth has talked about her own shift from being happy through pleasing others to pleasing herself and that created distance between her and her husband. At the … [Read more...]
Asking For A Divorce
For many people, asking their spouse for a divorce is the most difficult conversation they'll ever have. It's so intimidating that people put it off over and over again, waiting until the "right" time. The reality is that there is probably no "right" time and waiting for one is an indicator of your own fears and anxiety. My present guest, RMJ was separated from her husband … [Read more...]
Deciding To Divorce Takes Time
Sometimes I read headlines or comments that “divorce is too easy,” usually accompanied with some suggestion for a mandatory waiting period before the legal process can be started or a training class so that couples can be fully aware of the consequences of divorce. In all the interviews I’ve conducted, no one has suggested that divorce is easy. While my sample may not be … [Read more...]
A Quick End To A Marriage
Anytime you commit to change, there are going to be ripple effects and generally there is no way of knowing what the outcome will be. My current guest, Debbi had been married for thirteen years and during that time became an alcoholic. When she hit her rock bottom she got the help she needed to get sober and the dynamics between her and her husband changed. Here's Debbi: My … [Read more...]