It may not be particularly helpful or constructive advice but you will know when it is time to end your marriage. Something will happen and it may not be significant to anyone else but to you it's a sign. It says, "I'm done." My current guest, Lois Tarter had been married for about 25 years when she got divorced. Her marriage ended gradually and it took Lois sometime before … [Read more...]
Drifting Apart
Marriages can end in an explosive burst, they can end in a quiet fizzle, they can end quite suddenly and definitively, and they can end slowly, edging towards the point of no return. While I don't think there's anyway to predict the type of ending, I do suspect that the slow fizzle is more prevalent with long term marriages. Today, I'd like to introduce you to my next guest, … [Read more...]
The Legal Divorce Process
Breaking up with someone is hard enough. Then with marriage, there's the legal process to deal with which works reasonably well if both spouses are interested in coming to a resolution but it only takes one spouse with a "winning" mentality to turn the process into a living hell. My current guest Donna F. found that her husband had that winning mentality and at times that … [Read more...]
Deciding To Divorce
In an estimated eighty percent of divorces, the decision to end the marriage is made unilaterally. That doesn't necessarily mean that the decision is mutual in the remaining twenty percent of cases. Sometimes, who ultimately makes the decision just isn't that clear. My current guest, Donna F and her husband had talked about divorce during their first year of marriage when … [Read more...]
Getting Help From Al-Anon
We all know that marriage isn't easy. There are periods when the relationship needs lots of work and isn't fulfilling and hopefully these are outweighed by periods of blissful harmony. What do you though when our marriage seems like plain, old hard work all the time? My current guest, Stacey was unhappy for many of her twenty married years. She turned to Al-Anon and found … [Read more...]