Deciding to divorce isn't always about thoughtful, frank discussions with your spouse. Often times it's about introspection and detailed research on your own, conducted in secrecy. And if you do conclude that ending your marriage is the best option, continue working in secrecy to prepare for your divorce. There are any number of reasons why secrecy may be important. Violence … [Read more...]
The Legal Divorce Process: DIY, Unbundling Or Full Representation?
By Howard Iken There are an increasing number of options available for how to get divorced today ranging from full representation by an attorney to doing in yourself. Each comes with pros and cons and knowing these will help you choose the approach that is best suited to your situation. Is A Pro Se Divorce A Good Idea? Abraham Lincoln stated, “He who represents himself … [Read more...]
Doing What Is Best For Your Children In Divorce
Divorce doesn't bring out the best in people. To start with, breaking up isn't a situation that most of us are comfortable or familiar with. That can mean we don't always know how to behave,and that can lead to reactions that are reflexive, knee-jerks. Then, the legal process of dividing everything means that instead of thinking about what's best for us as a couple we have to … [Read more...]
Making Your Appearance In Divorce Court
If you're filing your own divorce, then chances are you are going to have to appear in court and probably more than once. Given that courts are governed by formal procedures, if you've never done this before it's going to be scary. My current guest, INRIS and his wife agreed they would handle their divorce themselves and used mediation to help with the negotiations. Here's … [Read more...]
Mediators Can Be Biased
Mediation can be a cost-efficient and effective mechanism for negotiating your divorce settlement and parenting agreement especially when you and your spouse are committed to working out an agreement. As a disinterested third-party, mediators are neutral or are supposed to be. Unfortunately, that isn't always the case. With a very limited budget and few assets, my current … [Read more...]