Well, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday but we’re not through the holiday abyss yet. This means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness, and visions of perfection shoved down our throats. For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and stressful—especially if we are going through or recovering from divorce. Instead of looking forward … [Read more...]
There Is No Easy Or Quick Way To Heal From Divorce
We all need to heal from divorce. That applies just as much to the person who initiates the divorce as the person whose spouse makes the decision. The healing process stirs up a lot of feelings and hurts from our childhood and family of origin, our societal and cultural norms and expectations and, of course from the marriage itself and previous committed … [Read more...]
What Halloween Candy Reveals About Your Divorce
Tis the season - no, not Christmas yet - of Halloween candy. Whether you buy it at the store and eat it all before the trick-or-treating or your children bring loads of it home on October 31, there will be candy and it will be tempting. You may have memories of your own trick-or-treating fun as you watch your children choose which candy is their favorite, which gets thrown … [Read more...]
Would An Apology Make Everything Right With Your Divorce?
An apology is powerful - done well, they open the door to healing, they make amends for wrong-doings and lead to forgiveness and the rebuilding of relationships. Done badly or not at all and they make relationships worse, they destroy trust and create obstacles to healing. Would an apology make everything right with your divorce? Why are apologies so important? What … [Read more...]
What To Do About Feeling Lonely After Divorce
When you are recovering from divorce after a long-term marriage, feeling lonely is definitely an obstacle that keeps you from moving on. We get stuck in this mindset because it makes us feel like we have nobody in the world. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Take a look at the mindful strategies that can help you kick your loneliness to the curb as you start this new chapter … [Read more...]