It's not usually hard to spot an engagement ring - even from a distance, they have that styling. You know what I mean. And that styling looks and feels great when you're in love but when the marriage is over, most people don't want to keep wearing a ring that announces to everyone, "I'm married." So you take the ring off, put it away somewhere. You know it's there and as long … [Read more...]
How To Survive With Your Alcoholic Spouse In Recovery
Having your spouse admit their drinking problem is a significant milestone; having them commit to recovery is another. While it may have taken months or years to get to this point, realistically it's going to be another eighteen months, two years before you can do any sort of meaningful work on your relationship. That begs the question, how will you survive your … [Read more...]
How To Reduce Post-Divorce Conflict
The amount of post-divorce conflict is a major determinant in how well children cope with their parents' divorce. Fact. Knowing how to reduce post-divorce conflict should therefore be a priority for any parent whose marriage is ending. Psychologist and family therapist, Antonio Borello has been divorced for three years. His two children are now aged ten and eight. Antonio … [Read more...]
Who Needs A Handyman After Divorce?
Guest Post by Judy Nelson In every marriage there's a division of labor, certain tasks you take on, certain tasks your spouse does. Living alone after divorce means there is no longer someone to share those tasks. You're responsible for them all and that can be intimidating. You might not know how to do them but that doesn't make you stupid. It just means you haven't had the … [Read more...]
Should I Blog About My Divorce?
Therapists and coaches often encourage clients to write about the end of their marriage to help process their emotions. Given how wired our world is now, the logical question then is, "Should I blog about my divorce?" My current guest Liv writes a blog Live By Surprise - she started blogging after her divorce and after she had remarried. While much of her blog is about life … [Read more...]