Ann Rouse got divorced when she found out she was pregnant. The marriage wasn't working and she wanted to be a good mom. Now she counts the co-parenting relationship she has with her ex as one of the positive changes from the divorce. *** My ex had a daughter from another marriage and so while we were married, I was a step-parent. I didn't think he was a good father to her so … [Read more...]
Minimizing the impact of divorce on children
I'm a big fan of NPR especially on the weekend when I can enjoy their programming over a more leisurely breakfast. This Sunday I caught host Liane Hansen interviewing singer Holly Williams, grandaughter of the legendary Hank Williams. During the interview, Holly says a song she wrote about her mother, "Mama" lead to her record deal. The background to the song is the positive … [Read more...]
Telling The Children
In yesterday's post, I shared Evvy's story about how the hardest part of her divorce was telling her children, even though they were adults. I have friends tell me they decided against divorce because they couldn't face telling their children and I can remember the agonizing discussions my ex and I had about when we should tell our children and what we should tell them. Our … [Read more...]
Reassessing The Magic Of Childhood
For any woman contemplating divorce, one of the biggest questions is how will the children react? I believe the response is so individual that generalizations can't or shouldn't be made. Evvy, for example, was married for 42 years when she decided enough was enough. Even though her children were grown up and out of the house, she says telling them was the hardest part of the … [Read more...]