Yesterday I shared how Sue celebrated her first Christmas after divorce with a surprise trip to Disneyland for her children. Today I'd like to talk a little about parenting time over the holidays. Sue's parenting agreement calls for the children to be with one parent on Christmas Eve day and evening and then to go to the other parent's home Christmas Eve night so they would … [Read more...]
Two homes, two sets of rules after divorce
If you've been following Kim Katz's story these last few posts, you'll know she's happily married to her third husband and she has a daughter from her first marriage and two sons from her second marriage. One of the challenges we face as parents in any shared parenting arrangement is coping with different rules at each parent's house. I figured Kim would be a good person to ask … [Read more...]
Introducing your new love to your children
Twice-divorced, thrice-married Kim Katz is most proud that through her romantic ups and downs she has maintained a steady home for her children. Her children come first and that's a priority that's held true even when she found love again. *** When I was dating my second husband, I was very concerned about how to introduce him to my daughter - when was the appropriate time, … [Read more...]
Parenting After Divorce Gets Easier With Time
Getting divorced may mean not having to live with someone anymore but if there are children involved, it doesn't mean not having to talk to your ex again. If there's shared custody, then communicating is as important if not more so than before. For Holly, whose son was a toddler at the time of her divorce, co-parenting has gotten easier. *** We have to talk to each other. … [Read more...]
Where Is Home After Divorce?
Lately, I've been pondering where do children in divorced families call home? Not sure what got me started on this - I do remember our family therapist, Dr. Shirley Thomas, saying that creating Two Happy Homes should be our goal so maybe that was in the back of my head. As I thought about this I realized that "home" has many meanings. For example, when I go back to England … [Read more...]