Jenni has been divorced for less than a year and for most of the women I've interviewed, it takes much longer than a year to adjust to being single especially if there are children involved. Jenni knows she's on a journey with lots of uphills however, she's learned that setting boundaries helps her and her children. Here's Jenni: Boundaries have always been an issue for me. … [Read more...]
Losing Contact With Grandparents After Divorce
I believe grandparents can be a rich and vital part of any child's upbringing. Perhaps that's because I have many fond memories of weekend afternoons as a teenager, having tea and playing cards with my grandparents who lived just a short distance away. I so wanted my own children to have that experience but it was not to be - my mum and my ex's father both passed away … [Read more...]
Should You And Your Child Have The Same Last Name?
Changing your name at the time of your divorce is an easy legal process but a very personal decision. For me, going back to my maiden name was a no-brainer. Changing your child's name isn't so straight-forward. That's not part of the divorce process and is a completely separate legal transaction. I'm told generally judges will only agree to the dropping of a father's last name … [Read more...]
When Your Child’s Father Is A Sex Offender
When my husband and I got divorced we sat down and talked about how we would tell our children and exactly what we would tell them. It's now almost three years since that conversation and during that time, my son has occasionally wanted to talk about it. My guidance has always been to honestly answer the question that was asked and that's pretty much the same philosophy as … [Read more...]
Coping With Parental Alienation
This is the third and final post in this current series on Parental Alienation. After I'd read Jacqui's writing about the pain of parental alienation, I tried to imagine how you would go about your daily life, what would help you from sinking into depression and how could friends help you. Here's what Jacqui said: First, let me say that I see myself as the walking wounded. The … [Read more...]