When my current guest, Molly mentioned that her ex still joins her and her children each week for Friday night family dinners, I was curious. I understood Molly wanted to see her ex as a good guy and was determined that her family was not going to 'broken' by divorce, but as Judy Osborne observed, some separations can be overly-friendly at first as each partner adjusts to the … [Read more...]
Adding New Partners To The Coparenting Mix
This is the last post in this series with author and marriage and family therapist, Judy Osborne about her book, Wisdom for Separated Parents. The interviewees in the book have all been through divorce but unlike most of my guests, there's been a significant passage of time since the end of their marriages. For some, it's ten years while others it's over thirty years. … [Read more...]
Bound To Your Ex Through Commitment And Events
For my current series, I talked to author and marriage and family therapist, Judy Osborne about her book, Wisdom for Separated Parents. The book is a collection of stories from divorced parents, about how they've stayed connected over the years and seeks to create a new model for families after divorce, a model on continuing kinship. In my interview with Judy, I asked her what … [Read more...]
Still Connected To Your Ex After Thirty-Six Years
When you get divorced and you have children together with your STBX, chances are you'll stay in touch. You could even still be connected with your ex after thirty-six years of living apart. Continuing with this series about my interview with author and marriage and family therapist, Judy Osborne, Judy talks about her own separation and some of the transitions in her … [Read more...]
When A Child Says Life After Divorce Is Better
I like to think that a big discussion in any divorce is how the children will react. What impact will divorce have on them? What can you do to insulate the children from the pain? It’s a question I always like to ask my interviewees. Kathleen Christensen’s daughter was seven when Kathleen and her husband decided to end their marriage. When I asked Kathleen about her daughter, … [Read more...]