It's some twenty-five years since Sarah's parents divorced and during that time, parenting time philosophy has changed significantly. Back then, it was typical for children to live with their mother and to visit dad on alternate weekends. Today, the starting point is more typically 50/50 parenting time. Sarah doesn't remember there being a specific parenting plan but her dad … [Read more...]
What The Longevity Project Tells Us About Divorce and Children
My most recent guest, Nancy shared that her marriage had been difficult since the very beginning but after Nancy had her daughter she really wanted to stay in the marriage for the sake of her daughter. Nancy and her husband ended up separating the year before their daughter left for college. So is it better to stay married until the kids leave home? My instinctive reaction to … [Read more...]
Custody Is Not An Automatic Right
When the judge decided that Marjorie should have joint custody of her daughter, Marjorie said he took time to explain the factors he took into consideration. One thing he made clear though is custody isn't an automatic right. Here's Marjorie: My ex came in there looking for status quo, wanting to keep things the way it was, wanting to keep the same parenting plan and wanting … [Read more...]
A Judge Decides Child Custody
Yesterday, I reintroduced you to Marjorie to share an update on her divorce story. Marjorie waited some fifteen months for the trial date for her divorce and during that time was the non-custodial parent for her minor daughter. She went from being a stay-at-home mom to having very limited access virtually overnight. At the trial, Marjorie got what she thought was best best for … [Read more...]
You Can Be A Better Parent After Divorce
I generally don't like reading articles about divorce studies. One the reasons for that is because often they don't seem to reflect what I'm hearing in my interviews. Admittedly I haven't come across any studies yet on the quality of parenting after divorce - but there's always the cry from the "stay married" advocates that children need both parents within the wrapper of a … [Read more...]