Switching schools is often a touchy subject for kids no matter what the circumstances. So when you're switching schools because of parental divorce, the transition can be even harder to accept and magnifies the disruption from the end of the marriage. Here's Ashley: Within a year of the divorce, my parents sold the house and we, my sister, my one brother and my mom moved to … [Read more...]
A Distant Father
Ashley experienced her parents’ divorce when she was fourteen and there was no question that she would live full-time with her mother. That was over thirty-years ago. Today it would be unusual for a couple to agree to such an arrangement without there being some extenuating circumstances and current wisdom is that children fare better when both parents remain actively involved. … [Read more...]
Once a Parent Always a Parent
Divorce is about ending your marriage, it's not about ending your parenting relationship and that's a message my current guest, Sarah wants anyone facing divorce to hear and understand. Here's Sarah: I think divorce is probably better than being stuck however your job is still a parent. Divorce might happen because people change, because people grow apart, all kinds of … [Read more...]
What Teachers See When Parents Divorce
Sarah's parents divorced when she was twelve and communicating with each other about her issues was one the things she says they did really well. As teachers, they'd seen how some of their students had been adversely impacted by divorce. Sarah is also a high school teacher and I asked her how divorce affects students today. Here's Sarah: The kids don’t always tell you what’s … [Read more...]
Celebrating the Big Events After Divorce
For the newly-divorced family, events like high-school graduation, Christmas, Thanksgiving and Spring Break are a cause of additional anxiety as you figure out how your established traditions need to change and how you can still honor the occasion as a family. Sarah's parents divorced over twenty-five years ago and as she shares here, their celebrations have evolved over time. … [Read more...]