The first few months after divorce are a time of transition and significant changes especially for children. As unfair as it is, it's normal for kids to prefer spending time with one parent over the other. Chances are they're more comfortable with the parent with whom who they've spent the most time and they'll probably want to spend the most time at the marital home, if that's … [Read more...]
Even Adult Children Find Divorce Devastating
High on the list of what not to say to someone getting divorced is, "At least your children are grown." No matter their age, children are always challenged with the end of their parents' marriage and age doesn't make it any easier. It just means the challenges are different. My present guest, Elizabeth was married for thirty-eight years. Her three children were all in their … [Read more...]
Celebrating Family Occasions
Parenting after divorce is challenging. Quite apart from differences in parenting approaches, one of the first and most obvious challenges is what to do about family celebrations and other events that are centered around your children. Most couples don't find this easy at first—they're still struggling to renegotiate their relationship from being a spousal one to being … [Read more...]
Does Divorce Destroy the Family Unit?
The end of a marriage means having to grapple with what is family after divorce. It can mean having to rethink everything you grew up believing, it can mean throwing away the vision for your own family that you've held for as long as you can remember and it can leave you wondering, "What now? Are we still a family?" It's something that we all have to deal with, regardless of … [Read more...]
Who Would Your Child’s School Call In An Emergency?
Parenting is challenging. Parenting after divorce can be even more challenging when frequently the interests of parents compete and collide with each other and with the best interests of the child. When it comes to emergencies, it's time to put those differences aside and to make sure you're working as a team. What do I mean by this? Let me share a story: I received an … [Read more...]